Monthly Archives: July 2017

Reality’s Wrapper

Hey! That’s not Self Help … Is It?

Usually the ideas for my blog posts are centered on helping folks get themselves through life a little better, a little easier, a little more happily. But occasionally something flits into my head that’s totally off the wall. In those cases, I generally just play with the idea but keep it to myself because it’s off topic – way off.

Once in a great while, though, a concept comes (and there it sits) but some of the words needed to describe it just don’t exist, not exactly, not yet. What you’ll read below, however, keeps coming back, increasingly insistent, as if it really wants out.

A Message to Garcia

A Message to GarciaOne evening, nearly 120 years ago, a man named Elbert Hubbard had something on his mind. He sat down and wrote a 1500 word op-ed piece for the magazine he edited. Nothing special about that.

But those few pages – what Hubbard himself considered a literary trifle – swept round the world, carried from one person to the next, to the next.

Goals that Won’t Die on You

Want a couple of simple hints that could help you inject real long-staying power into your projects and goals?

Hint 1

Have a moveable goal. Often I see people achieve their long-held objective, but soon afterward, all forward progress stops. Example – right up the street are two different coffee shops that closed very soon after they opened. My educated guess is that their goal was something like, “I open my own coffee shop, I open my own coffee shop.”

Downloading Intelligence

Knowledge Leaps From Mind to Mind

Got a nice, newsy email from long-time friend and charter member Russ the other day. In it he mentioned the idea of implanting new knowledge into the brain as in the film “The Matrix.”

Here’s a suggesting for future articles: I’m REALLY CURIOUS about this new concept of ‘downloading’ intelligence and then ‘uploading’ it again into a new body of our choosing. With all the advances in technology, I’m convinced that this is going to be a reality sometime within this century! I’m hoping it will be within the next 37 years – before I hit 100! Yeah… sign me up for that! 

How to Accept Yourself in 4 Easy Steps

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Revving Yourself Back Up

You know how your thoughts can sometimes (or often) wander away from the direction you’d been intending to go. You’re familiar with that feeling, right? You walk into the kitchen, look around and can’t quite remember why you came in.

You get distracted by trivialities, and you end the day having done none of the things you so firmly intended that morning.

Sucker Promises

I’ve got a pet peeve. And that’s when somebody tries to sell me something which they claim will change my life. The price will be surprisingly low, but despite this, they vow that their system / club / product / seminar will produce results so automatically that I’ll have to put forth little to no effort to reap these miraculous results.

They often state that their system / club / product / seminar will provide results so quickly that I won’t

You’ve Got it in You

Making decisions Is Murder

Go to one restaurant tonight, and there are all those other great eateries you can’t enjoy. Deciding FOR one thing means you’re deciding AGAINST everything else.

For example, you decide to take one job, and you turn your back on a whole host of other career moves. Until you choose one thing, everything is possible – everything is yours (potentially). In fact, until the moment of decision, you are fabulously rich with all that vast, unclaimed potential. 

If We Get What We Focus on, Then …

Focus on the Good

Photo by Susan Minarik

Our world is awash in problems and while some of them are getting the attention they need, others are being ignored in favor of … contrived … issues. And this situation is irritating a growing number of people.

One of the steadiest people I know is long-time friend Susan Minarik. She runs the “Positive Living Now” blog where she focuses on what makes people happy and how we can put that information to use in practical, daily life.

93 Year Old Body Builder

Dr. Charles Eugster, back in 2012, gave a TEDx talk in Zurich on the importance of body building. He was 93 at the time. In that presentation, he told about his experience when he was a much younger 85. It seems he looked in the mirror and didn’t like what he saw.

Of course, sooner or later everybody does that, young and old alike. And most folks don’t do much about it (except to stop looking in the mirror so often). But on that particular day, Eugster decided to change what he was seeing.

The Letter but Not the Spirit

So many purists who know the letter but not the spirit of what they’re trying to talk about … oh my my my

People who follow the law (and maybe some whom the law is following) talk about “the letter of the law versus the spirit of the law.”

Showing Is Better than Telling

Doubters Dragging You Down?

A question I frequently receive concerns being surrounded by negative friends, family members or co-workers and how discouraging they can be. A few days ago, I received another such email:

“My husband just doesn’t get it – I try to explain the laws of attraction, but he always rejects the idea, and sometimes ridicules me for my gullibility. How can I get him to stop being so negative and see how important this is? I tried to get him to watch the movie ‘The Secret’ with me, but he just made fun of it and walked out. Is it possible to get results while I’m surrounded by all this negativity?”

Rebuilding Your Beliefs

Hand-Me-Down Ideas

Most of our beliefs are second-hand goods. We acquire the bulk of them, beginning at a very early age, from those around us, and then we spend much of the rest of our lives trying both to cling to them and shake ourselves loose from them.

We take our beliefs on so lightly, so full of trust, thinking they are fundamental truths, but eventually we begin suspecting that many of them are a bad fit. That’s when we find that bringing a belief in is a lot easier than inviting it out. What a strange comedy.

How to Start DOing

I expect some readers won’t like this one. At least, I HOPE they don’t. Because it’s my intention to get under your skin and irritate the hell out of you. Irritate you enough to stand up on your hind legs and CHANGE SOMETHING. NOW.

You should also be aware that in this article, I’m not talking to you; I’m talking to YOU. The inner you who knows how to actually get things done.

If you’re still reading, it means that you and YOU are in agreement on this.

The Option of Low-Key Greatness

Successes are the side effects, not the goals of living.

Coaches, lecturers and self-help experts spend a lot of time telling you how to be greater, achieve more, improve your self-worth. I admit I’ve done the same thing in the past, and I’ll probably do it again, when it seems appropriate.

But just for now, just for the next two or three minutes, let’s set aside our to-do lists, our goal sheets and our dream boards. Let’s not talk about goals or achievement at all. No affirmations, no law of attraction stuff, no power-packed visualizations.