Category Archives: Confidence

Grit True or Grit False?

Getting Grit

Angela Duckworth – Grit

In my teens, I began feeling, as many people that age do, a serious lack of … something. Something I didn’t have but which I believed would enable me to live without the constant sense of malaise that gnawed away deep in my inner space. Within me was a strong sense of “I can’t do it”, whatever “it” might turn out to be, and furthermore, I probably wouldn’t ever be able to do it.

What Problems Bring to You

A Message to Garcia

A Message to GarciaOne evening, nearly 120 years ago, a man named Elbert Hubbard had something on his mind. He sat down and wrote a 1500 word op-ed piece for the magazine he edited. Nothing special about that.

But those few pages – what Hubbard himself considered a literary trifle – swept round the world, carried from one person to the next, to the next.

Goals that Won’t Die on You

Want a couple of simple hints that could help you inject real long-staying power into your projects and goals?

Hint 1

Have a moveable goal. Often I see people achieve their long-held objective, but soon afterward, all forward progress stops. Example – right up the street are two different coffee shops that closed very soon after they opened. My educated guess is that their goal was something like, “I open my own coffee shop, I open my own coffee shop.”

Showing Is Better than Telling

Doubters Dragging You Down?

A question I frequently receive concerns being surrounded by negative friends, family members or co-workers and how discouraging they can be. A few days ago, I received another such email:

“My husband just doesn’t get it – I try to explain the laws of attraction, but he always rejects the idea, and sometimes ridicules me for my gullibility. How can I get him to stop being so negative and see how important this is? I tried to get him to watch the movie ‘The Secret’ with me, but he just made fun of it and walked out. Is it possible to get results while I’m surrounded by all this negativity?”

Retiring Your Fears

fear view mirrorI remember reading somewhere, Words, said with certainty, can alter our beliefs.”

I really like that. Getting a client to put their own words together with their own actions is a great way to teach them DIY confidence.

About that thing I do, it’s similar to the way a hypnotist will place your pain in a blind spot, except

Too Little Too Late? Phooie!

Ran across two things today within sixty seconds of each other.

First was the graphic on the left. Now, I like this kind of art … always have. If it’s eye catching and says something meaningful, ironic, funny or constructive, I’ll probably enjoy it. And this one, from Lori Deschene’s tinybuddha.com, said exactly what I wanted to hear this morning.

Some folks assume that their expiration date is hopelessly close and begin to act like they’re in their final days – even though those final days might go on for years longer than expected.

The True Price of Success

The true price of success

Success Is Outside

Standing on the beach in the gale-force winds, the kid was looking queasy. We could all see the storm was growing more intense. The rain had already plastered his hair to his forehead and his new black suit was starting to cling to him in ways Mr. Armani never intended.

Putting in Stars

Dreaming of Success

Maybe you want more… Tony did. Little Tony was born “in the wrong neighborhood” to relatively poor, working class parents who couldn’t afford to send him to college.

But even as a child, little Tony ached and yearned to amount to something, to be really big in the world. His grades weren’t all that special, but he had one burning desire. He wanted to be a big success.

Grampa’s Business Rules

The Rules for Success Are Not New

You know, business doesn’t have to be a complex, Harvard-B-school kind of thing, all complicated and hard for ordinary mortals to understand. Much of it CAN be boiled down to some pretty simple stuff.

My paternal grandfather didn’t have a degree in business. In fact, he never got past the third or fourth grade, but that didn’t stop him from running several successful businesses and owning a significant part of the small north-Georgia town where he lived.

What It REALLY Takes to Succeed

Eight Traits You Can Develop

Are you really going to accomplish the next thing you decide to do?

Now, I don’t know what your “next thing” — your next goal — might be. It could be a business goal, or a family objective. It may be connected with inner growth, or with your physical health.

But whatever it is, whatever you promise yourself that you’ll do, are you actually going to follow through? Will you keep on till you reach completion?

Iron-Clad Confidence

“He just oozed confidence.”

That’s the way a long-time friend described Aristotle Onassis when he was just a teenager. Some people are late bloomers. They don’t gain much real self assurance till they are well into adulthood.

But there are also early bloomers — Onassis was one — and the stories describing his early years don’t all agree on details. The do all agree, however, on one point: young Ari had charisma, and lots of it. They all describe a young man with brains and drive and overflowing with confidence.

Taking Permanent Control of Your Moods

Your Mental State Is in Your Hands

I sure do hope you’re not typical … because the typical person has little control over how they’ll feel when they get up tomorrow.

Most days, they feel like a pinball. They crawl out of bed expecting that — again today — they’re going to be bounced from one obstacle to another, pushed this way and that, and rolled helplessly into an unending stream of unexpected experiences.

Getting Your Confidence Back

When Confidence Deserts You

How many different ways have you heard it said?

  • “I can’t get my golf swing (free throw; tennis serve; pitching) back on track”
  • “All these hours of practice are only making things worse”
  • “I wonder why I ever thought I could be an athlete”
  • “Others might succeed, but I guess I’ll never make it.”

Ever been there?

I have. And so have most people … if they’ll tell you the truth.

Procrastination Is a Good Start

Some Assets Wear a Disguise

Those so-called “bad” habits you’ve been struggling to break may be better assets than you realize. In fact, if you really understood what you have here, you might not dislike them quite so much.

True, in their present form, some of your habits may be royally screwing up your life, but here’s an interesting little question for you… who says a habit has to stay in its present form? This simple question uncovers the loose edge of a huge, huge secret. And the secret is that you can actually keep your present “bad” habits, only adjusting them slightly, building on them a bit, and as you retune them, they could become some of your strongest “good” habits.

World Champion Public Speaker

“The Power of Words”

How much confidence would it take for you to get up and address a huge audience of highly experienced speakers? Well, just this past August Mohammed Qahtani, a security engineer, became the world’s best speaker — for 2015, at least — in Toastmasters International’s annual world championship.

Obedience Training?

Will Your Child Be Somebody’s Servant? Are You?

Mike said his dad looked ready to spit poison. One of the ladies at church had just commented, “Teddy, your little boy is so polite.” As always, Mike’s father loved to hear that. He beamed, “Yep, I’m raising my boy to be a good, obedient kid.”

But that particular day, old Mr. Corley happened to be walking past. Mr. Corley … the old man who owned half the town. The old man who never dressed fancy, never lived high, and never said much to anybody, and who certainly never poked his nose into anybody else’s affairs. That Mr. Corley.

But this time, old man Corley butted in. He growled, “Aw hell, Teddy, you ain’t raising a kid. You’re just training somebody’s servant for ‘em.”

Chaos for Fun and Profit

The Upside of Uncertainty

Ever heard of Dan Peña? He’s a quirky and fascinating man, a real life rags-to-riches bootstrap multi-millionaire who taught himself to build net worth by taking over huge corporations and either running them better or selling off the mismatched parts and reinvesting the new cash (which is basically the same thing).

Do Others Want to Help You Succeed?

Getting Ahead Takes a Team

Success in this world requires group effort. We all need mentors and people who will help us on the journey. But what will it take to attract the right people into our lives?

You’ve no doubt heard the old proverb about finding a love partner: to attract a wonderful person, you must become a wonderful person to whom that wonderful person would be attracted.

Everything successful between people is based upon giving.

The Skill of Self Confidence

Born with it, or trained to it?

It’s tempting to believe that confidence — if you’re short of it — is some kind of mysterious quality bestowed only upon certain select individuals. It’s easy to see who has it. They’re the ones who seem to just flow through life as easily and naturally as spring water down a mountainside.

But here’s a little secret. You can learn confidence (or build up more of it), just as you would with any other skill. Here to explain it is sports coach Dr. Ivan Joseph.