Category Archives: Expectation

Sucker Promises

I’ve got a pet peeve. And that’s when somebody tries to sell me something which they claim will change my life. The price will be surprisingly low, but despite this, they vow that their system / club / product / seminar will produce results so automatically that I’ll have to put forth little to no effort to reap these miraculous results.

They often state that their system / club / product / seminar will provide results so quickly that I won’t

Still in the Stone Age

We're still in the stone age

Over the course of mankind’s development, we have so far never actually created any new thing. We’ve only ever manipulated and rearranged the rough materials we’ve found lying around. Everything ever made, from the caveman’s stone axe to the physicist’s particle accelerator, has all been crafted from rocks, sticks or mud.

Doubt that? Consider …

Take any modern material, such as plastic. It’s made from petroleum, right? So, your polyester-acrylic blend shirt and your Tupperware bowl are made from highly processed mud.

Reasons You Can’t – All Unreal

My grandaddy, who ran a plumbing shop, used to say, “There are lots of reasons you think you can’t, but not one of them is real. Not one.”

Grandaddy may have been a country boy from south Georgia with only a third-grade education, but that never seemed to slow him down. For instance, I recall that in his late fifties he still remembered all the states and their capitols. He could tell you every US president and when he served (as well as interesting little stories about things each one achieved).

Stepping into the Realm of Uncertainty

Living is a do-it-yourself project. At birth we were given our life, and in the course of that life, we’ve encountered circumstances, people, events.

What we make of them – and of ourselves – has been left entirely up to us. But there are certain people and certain organizations who see what we’re doing and may not like the direction we’re headed in. Some of them might even feel they have the right to step in and direct our life for us.

Dump the Beggar’s Tin Cup

Law of Attraction work is not begging

Passive or Active?

When a beggar sets up a spot on the sidewalk, you’ll always find a cup, bowl, hat or some other container in front of them. That’s so people can put in their donations, impersonally, without having to do it hand-to-hand. This cup creates an emotional distance between the person giving and the one receiving.

Information Overload? No Such Thing

So Much Information, so Little Time

How will I ever keep up?   … that feeling grips many of us.

When it does, we shrug our shoulders and curse the glut of data pouring into and through our lives. It has, in fact, become quite trendy to complain about feeling harassed and overwhelmed by all the incoming info that we need to know. Somebody even coined the term “information overload,” right?

But I Don’t Want to Wait THAT Long

Impatience

Years ago, I worked in a camera shop with a man named Sam who was constantly bemoaning his bad luck. He often talked about Mr. Dawson, a man in our town. He was in his seventies, and he was really lucky. Dawson was “lucky” according to Sam because he owned buildings all over the western suburbs of Chicago.

One day when he mentioned Dawson, I commented, “Hey, Sam, you’re only thirty-five now. Why don’t you start buying buildings this year? By the time you’re seventy-five you’ll have become as rich as Dawson.”

Control Your Words — Control Your Destiny

Undependable

Mike had run into a stubborn little glitch with his affirmations. “When I say the word ‘productive,’ he told me, “I get a little spike of self-doubt.”

Each time Mike affirmed that he was productive, it stirred up in him a deep feeling of mis-match — what psychologists call cognitive dissonance. This basically means he was trying to believe two things that contradict each other. At the gut level, Mike “knew” that he was UN-productive, so strong doubts came welling up within him.

Your Affirmations vs. Your Results

Getting What You Expect out of Life?

If not, how do you behave when you’re disappointed?

My wife and I last year moved back to Japan after living six years in Thailand. Now, I’ve eaten and enjoyed Thai food for years, but being in the source-country of all that goodness did bring me a few surprises. Take milk for example.

A Better Neighborhood

Protection or Prevention?

Let’s talk about this idea of projecting a circle or a sphere of protection around ourselves to keep ourselves safe.

Most spiritual instructors teach that we absolutely need some kind of protection to keep us from being dangerously exposed and helpless. And in many ways they’re absolutely right. The everyday world we live in actually is teeming with hazards and negative influences, and under those circumstances, it only makes sense to wrap ourselves in a glowing aura of positivity.

Everything ALWAYS Works Right

Failing Takes a Lot of Effort

“Son,” my Dad would say, “You could screw up a one-man funeral.” I don’t know how many thousands of times my father told me that while I was growing up, but it soaked in pretty deeply.

By the time I reached adulthood, I was convinced; nothing would ever work right for me; if there was a way to mess things up, I’d always find it. That was just a fact of my existence: I was a screwup.

The Teacher Appears

Lessons in the Dirt

You’ve heard it hundreds of times – when the student is finally ready, the teacher is going to show up and set things right… maybe lead you triumphantly into the promised land.

But have you ever had a teacher come tapping on your shoulder, ready and eager to reveal to you all the secrets of the ages?

Depression Is a Volunteer Activity

De-Mystifying Moods

I was feeling great that day, so naturally I decided to screw it up. Feeling happy was not a common thing for me. In fact, I spent a LOT of time depressed from the age of 15 till I was around 30. After that I mellowed out a bit, and how that happened is a story.

When you can’t seem to control your own moods, you tend to look either for relief or for answers. I opted for answers, and where I looked was in positive thinking books.

Chaos for Fun and Profit

The Upside of Uncertainty

Ever heard of Dan Peña? He’s a quirky and fascinating man, a real life rags-to-riches bootstrap multi-millionaire who taught himself to build net worth by taking over huge corporations and either running them better or selling off the mismatched parts and reinvesting the new cash (which is basically the same thing).

Is My Happiness Hiding Somewhere?

The Same Wrong Turn Every Time

Judy was crying … again. After breaking up with her latest boyfriend, she was weeping uncontrollably. Crying over a broken romance would usually be normal behavior, except this was her seventh goodbye in the past thirteen months.

The pattern was always the same. Judy would come round with her latest new romantic interest, showing him off, and telling her best friends privately that she’d finally found “him,” the one she’d been looking for all her life.