Nature Abhors a Vacuum (and So Do Bloggers)

Speak to Me.

So there I was, talking away into thin air. Sitting on the front porch, my eyes closed, telling Brenda May all my hopes and dreams, my private aspirations for the future. Somewhere in the midst of my musings, Brenda May must have gotten hungry or sleepy … or bored.

Finally I asked what she was thinking, and no response came. Just silence. That’s when I opened my eyes and discovered I was alone, except for Gramps, the old blue tick hound down at the other end of the porch, who was eyeing me soberly. Except for him, I’d been talking into a vacuum. Believe me, vacuum sucks.

You ever do that? Ever just open up and pour out all your hopes and dreams, your fears for the future, your learnings from the past? But then you look around, and nobody’s paying you any attention at all. They’re just going about their daily business, giving you scarcely a glance.

Ever feel like that?

I do sometimes. A lot of bloggers do, I’ll bet. To get an idea of what I mean, go to any blog and take a look at the number of posts and compare that to the number of comments. That’s a pretty good indicator of how many readers feel a connection with that blogger and his posts.

Take 2-Be.com for example. 98 posts versus 7 comments. That’s a 7.1% comment ratio. Fairly low. But typical of many, many blogs.

When we see a ratio that low, it means that either the blogger is not a very interesting writer, or he’s writing about the wrong stuff, presenting material his readers don’t much care about.

So I ask you straight. Which is it?

Am I off the mark, bringing you things that don’t really click for you?

Or am I just boring?

I invite you to tell me in the comments section below, because my old dog Gramps just won’t say. If 2-Be is bringing you impractical stuff (or topics that are wrong for you), tell me what you would like. Or, maybe it’s all just boring the living spit out of you. If so, what are you doing reading this anyway?

Speak to me.

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4 Responses to Nature Abhors a Vacuum (and So Do Bloggers)

  1. Dave Cole says:

    I guess I just ‘suck it up’. No comment necessarily required. Having said that, on reflection I do have a comment to make on a previous post. I will find and comment.
    Your blog post are appreciated though.

    • chasby says:

      Hi Dave,

      Over the years, most of us have been told repeatedly to “suck it up,” but we still don’t like it, none of us. And there’s a pretty good reason for that.

      The version of suck-it-up that we’ve been taught … well … it sucks. That’s because the people teaching us didn’t know much about it themselves. The way most of us have learned involves more resignation than resolve, more teeth gritting than true grit. But there’s a way to meet life that doesn’t involve knuckling under or muttering under our breath.

      I’ll be holding a series of calls starting in September (if there’s enough interest) dealing with this exact issue. I’ll look forward to meeting you on the calls.

  2. Russ says:

    Exactly Charles,

    This is the reason I don’t blog anymore myself. As for the few comments I did get, most were of the piss/moan/disagree variety… “Who needs THIS?” I asked myself.

    Now I’m on the Board of Directors for my condo community where I’ve lived for the past 12 years. And most of the comments we get are the piss/moan/disagree variety…

    Geez, is there NO escape? LOL

    So yeah, I read you loud and clear.

    I remember purchasing your book when you first came online way back when. And you’re STILL one of my favorite reads. I always get the feeling that your just behind my screen – a friend who is close by, ready for a heart-to-heart chat.

    From what I can see, you have a loyal few who really do look forward to your next post. When I was teaching private music lessons full-time, my schedule was filled mostly with students who didn’t want to be there, pushed by overbearing parents who (very wrongly) thought their kid was the next Mozart. It was the small handful of appreciative kids; students who REALLY WORKED at what I taught them, who kept me in the game for as long as I lasted.

    I hope you will see it the same way. It’s worth staying in the game if only for the few who really do appreciate what you have to offer the world. I’m definitely one of them!

    All the best from Toronto,
    Russ

    • chasby says:

      I can sympathize with your experiences on the piss/moan/disagree front. I sometimes think that keeping ourselves positive in the midst of all the shit-drizzles going on around us might be a lot like surfing. We try to stay upright and balanced no matter what comes flooding around us.

      I know a number of private teachers (myself included) who get really disheartened by the 95-98 percent of their students who have no follow-through. When thoughts like that come, I try to remind myself of the photography course I quit at the third lesson, the technical slide-making service that I let die, the promising novels that I let stutter to a stop at chapter 4 or 5 or 6, the vinyl-repair service, the Amway dealership, the … but you get the idea. I’m not without sin, so I feel funny casting the first stone here. But you’re right, it feels so GOOD when you teach somebody who’s genuinely eager and enthusiastic.

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