Still in the Stone Age

We're still in the stone age

Over the course of mankind’s development, we have so far never actually created any new thing. We’ve only ever manipulated and rearranged the rough materials we’ve found lying around. Everything ever made, from the caveman’s stone axe to the physicist’s particle accelerator, has all been crafted from rocks, sticks or mud.

Doubt that? Consider …

Take any modern material, such as plastic. It’s made from petroleum, right? So, your polyester-acrylic blend shirt and your Tupperware bowl are made from highly processed mud.

Reasons You Can’t – All Unreal

My grandaddy, who ran a plumbing shop, used to say, “There are lots of reasons you think you can’t, but not one of them is real. Not one.”

Grandaddy may have been a country boy from south Georgia with only a third-grade education, but that never seemed to slow him down. For instance, I recall that in his late fifties he still remembered all the states and their capitols. He could tell you every US president and when he served (as well as interesting little stories about things each one achieved).

New Email Design – Which Color Works Best?

A few days ago I sent out an email testing a new, bright red template. And I asked for feedback on the color about whether anybody liked (or hated) the red design.

Feedback was very sparse, with less than a dozen readers offering their opinions. Of those who did respond, however, there was near-unanimous agreement: red was not bad exactly, but it hit the eye a little too strongly.

Retiring Your Fears

fear view mirrorI remember reading somewhere, Words, said with certainty, can alter our beliefs.”

I really like that. Getting a client to put their own words together with their own actions is a great way to teach them DIY confidence.

About that thing I do, it’s similar to the way a hypnotist will place your pain in a blind spot, except

A Surer Way to Hit Your Goals

About a century and a half ago, Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote that people would rather look to others for their motivation. And that was at a time we nostalgically consider America’s “rugged individualist” phase. Wonder what he’d say now.

Human nature being what it is, I’d guess that nothing much has changed since the mid-eighteen-hundreds.

Back then they had a well established apprenticeship system under

Too Little Too Late? Phooie!

Ran across two things today within sixty seconds of each other.

First was the graphic on the left. Now, I like this kind of art … always have. If it’s eye catching and says something meaningful, ironic, funny or constructive, I’ll probably enjoy it. And this one, from Lori Deschene’s tinybuddha.com, said exactly what I wanted to hear this morning.

Some folks assume that their expiration date is hopelessly close and begin to act like they’re in their final days – even though those final days might go on for years longer than expected.

How Coachable Are You?

Are you coachable? How coachable are you?

When coaches get together and trade shop talk, one of their favorite topics is who has the most “interesting” client from hell. Of course, few of them will admit such an openly negative thing publicly. But the truth is, they’ve all had at least one of those clients and usually more than one. In some cases, many more.

If you’re wondering what makes a “bad” client, this is where you find out. And if you’re a coaching client yourself, pay close attention to what I’m going to tell you. It could utterly change the results you’re getting.

So, what makes a “good” client? What characteristics make you a client that a coach just loves to work with?

Coasting Won’t Get Us There

Success is a peak experience. Nobody just drifts up a mountain

Behind every person who makes a success of something, you’ll find a long, rugged trail of effort and persistence. Somehow the world knows. It can tell who’s paid their dues and who’s just coasted along, putting in the time but not the blood, sweat and grit.

Of course, we sometimes see an exception, a person who rides in on a connection, a coat-tail or a coincidence. But if they didn’t really earn it, their flash across the sky is brief and soon forgotten. Call them what you wish, one-hit-wonders, one-movie duds, or one-sale-burnouts, they don’t know what they did, so it’s a non-repeatable thing.

The Deaf Shall Surely Sing Again

 

Ever feel like things just keep going wrong for you? Is life crapping on you yet again? Maybe it’s even taken away the one thing in the world that you wanted most.

Well, before you give up and throw in the towel, I’d like you to take a couple of minutes and watch the video below.

Ten years ago, Mandy Harvey, while still in her teens and studying to be a singer, lost 100% of her hearing. Then,

Stepping into the Realm of Uncertainty

Living is a do-it-yourself project. At birth we were given our life, and in the course of that life, we’ve encountered circumstances, people, events.

What we make of them – and of ourselves – has been left entirely up to us. But there are certain people and certain organizations who see what we’re doing and may not like the direction we’re headed in. Some of them might even feel they have the right to step in and direct our life for us.

Sailing into 2017

Are You Hiding Out or Setting Out?

This year, we might want to throw out the rule book. Dump the blueprints and to-do lists — the shoulds, the oughts and the have-to’s. If you aren’t quite satisfied with how last year turned out, why not try something different in 2017? Maybe something with a bit higher “Fun Quotient.”

The True Price of Success

The true price of success

Success Is Outside

Standing on the beach in the gale-force winds, the kid was looking queasy. We could all see the storm was growing more intense. The rain had already plastered his hair to his forehead and his new black suit was starting to cling to him in ways Mr. Armani never intended.

Dump the Beggar’s Tin Cup

Law of Attraction work is not begging

Passive or Active?

When a beggar sets up a spot on the sidewalk, you’ll always find a cup, bowl, hat or some other container in front of them. That’s so people can put in their donations, impersonally, without having to do it hand-to-hand. This cup creates an emotional distance between the person giving and the one receiving.

Tyson’s Secret

Hypnosis - the secret of Tyson's fierceness

Now retired, former boxer Mike Tyson was professionally hypnotised before his fights to ensure he was as ferocious as possible in the ring.

Tyson won his first 19 fights by knockout after becoming a professional boxer at the age of 18. In the process, he developed a reputation as a particularly vicious and aggressive fighter, who would quickly bear down on opponents at the first bell.

The 5-Minute Therapist – Humor

Comedian Bob Newhart, in one of his most popular skits, offers a delicately nuanced solution to a lady suffering from a terrible phobia.

Bob Newhart – The 5-Minute Therapist

The Impatience of Mrs. Suzuki

Patience is a virtue … everybody agrees, right?

Back in the 14th century, British poet William Langland was probably the first to introduce this thought into English. And the ensuing seven hundred years have done nothing to disprove it. Just the opposite.

So why are so many people still so impatient?

Putting in Stars

Dreaming of Success

Maybe you want more… Tony did. Little Tony was born “in the wrong neighborhood” to relatively poor, working class parents who couldn’t afford to send him to college.

But even as a child, little Tony ached and yearned to amount to something, to be really big in the world. His grades weren’t all that special, but he had one burning desire. He wanted to be a big success.

Who’s That Knockin’ on Your Door?

Missing Messages

Imagine this: You’re at a friend’s house, cheerfully chatting, and there’s a knock at the front door. But your friend makes no move to go see who it is. The knocking continues, gradually becoming more insistent, but still your friend ignores it.

Finally, you offer, “Don’t you think you should go see about that?”

Grampa’s Business Rules

The Rules for Success Are Not New

You know, business doesn’t have to be a complex, Harvard-B-school kind of thing, all complicated and hard for ordinary mortals to understand. Much of it CAN be boiled down to some pretty simple stuff.

My paternal grandfather didn’t have a degree in business. In fact, he never got past the third or fourth grade, but that didn’t stop him from running several successful businesses and owning a significant part of the small north-Georgia town where he lived.

What It REALLY Takes to Succeed

Eight Traits You Can Develop

Are you really going to accomplish the next thing you decide to do?

Now, I don’t know what your “next thing” — your next goal — might be. It could be a business goal, or a family objective. It may be connected with inner growth, or with your physical health.

But whatever it is, whatever you promise yourself that you’ll do, are you actually going to follow through? Will you keep on till you reach completion?

Iron-Clad Confidence

“He just oozed confidence.”

That’s the way a long-time friend described Aristotle Onassis when he was just a teenager. Some people are late bloomers. They don’t gain much real self assurance till they are well into adulthood.

But there are also early bloomers — Onassis was one — and the stories describing his early years don’t all agree on details. The do all agree, however, on one point: young Ari had charisma, and lots of it. They all describe a young man with brains and drive and overflowing with confidence.

Taking Permanent Control of Your Moods

Your Mental State Is in Your Hands

I sure do hope you’re not typical … because the typical person has little control over how they’ll feel when they get up tomorrow.

Most days, they feel like a pinball. They crawl out of bed expecting that — again today — they’re going to be bounced from one obstacle to another, pushed this way and that, and rolled helplessly into an unending stream of unexpected experiences.

Information Overload? No Such Thing

So Much Information, so Little Time

How will I ever keep up?   … that feeling grips many of us.

When it does, we shrug our shoulders and curse the glut of data pouring into and through our lives. It has, in fact, become quite trendy to complain about feeling harassed and overwhelmed by all the incoming info that we need to know. Somebody even coined the term “information overload,” right?

Getting Your Confidence Back

When Confidence Deserts You

How many different ways have you heard it said?

  • “I can’t get my golf swing (free throw; tennis serve; pitching) back on track”
  • “All these hours of practice are only making things worse”
  • “I wonder why I ever thought I could be an athlete”
  • “Others might succeed, but I guess I’ll never make it.”

Ever been there?

I have. And so have most people … if they’ll tell you the truth.

The Most Unpopular Secret of Personal Power

HELEN KELLER SAID, “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

So you hate the hard times you’ve passed through? Maybe you need to think again.

Easy times never stretch us, never enlarge our strengths, never give us a new, expanded grasp of our capabilities.