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Rebuilding Your Beliefs

Hand-Me-Down Ideas

Most of our beliefs are second-hand goods. We acquire the bulk of them, beginning at a very early age, from those around us, and then we spend much of the rest of our lives trying both to cling to them and shake ourselves loose from them.

We take our beliefs on so lightly, so full of trust, thinking they are fundamental truths, but eventually we begin suspecting that many of them are a bad fit. That’s when we find that bringing a belief in is a lot easier than inviting it out. What a strange comedy.

How to Start DOing

I expect some readers won’t like this one. At least, I HOPE they don’t. Because it’s my intention to get under your skin and irritate the hell out of you. Irritate you enough to stand up on your hind legs and CHANGE SOMETHING. NOW.

You should also be aware that in this article, I’m not talking to you; I’m talking to YOU. The inner you who knows how to actually get things done.

If you’re still reading, it means that you and YOU are in agreement on this.

The Option of Low-Key Greatness

Successes are the side effects, not the goals of living.

Coaches, lecturers and self-help experts spend a lot of time telling you how to be greater, achieve more, improve your self-worth. I admit I’ve done the same thing in the past, and I’ll probably do it again, when it seems appropriate.

But just for now, just for the next two or three minutes, let’s set aside our to-do lists, our goal sheets and our dream boards. Let’s not talk about goals or achievement at all. No affirmations, no law of attraction stuff, no power-packed visualizations.

Retiring Your Fears

fear view mirrorI remember reading somewhere, Words, said with certainty, can alter our beliefs.”

I really like that. Getting a client to put their own words together with their own actions is a great way to teach them DIY confidence.

About that thing I do, it’s similar to the way a hypnotist will place your pain in a blind spot, except

A Surer Way to Hit Your Goals

About a century and a half ago, Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote that people would rather look to others for their motivation. And that was at a time we nostalgically consider America’s “rugged individualist” phase. Wonder what he’d say now.

Human nature being what it is, I’d guess that nothing much has changed since the mid-eighteen-hundreds.

Back then they had a well established apprenticeship system under

How Coachable Are You?

Are you coachable? How coachable are you?

When coaches get together and trade shop talk, one of their favorite topics is who has the most “interesting” client from hell. Of course, few of them will admit such an openly negative thing publicly. But the truth is, they’ve all had at least one of those clients and usually more than one. In some cases, many more.

If you’re wondering what makes a “bad” client, this is where you find out. And if you’re a coaching client yourself, pay close attention to what I’m going to tell you. It could utterly change the results you’re getting.

So, what makes a “good” client? What characteristics make you a client that a coach just loves to work with?

Coasting Won’t Get Us There

Success is a peak experience. Nobody just drifts up a mountain

Behind every person who makes a success of something, you’ll find a long, rugged trail of effort and persistence. Somehow the world knows. It can tell who’s paid their dues and who’s just coasted along, putting in the time but not the blood, sweat and grit.

Of course, we sometimes see an exception, a person who rides in on a connection, a coat-tail or a coincidence. But if they didn’t really earn it, their flash across the sky is brief and soon forgotten. Call them what you wish, one-hit-wonders, one-movie duds, or one-sale-burnouts, they don’t know what they did, so it’s a non-repeatable thing.

Stepping into the Realm of Uncertainty

Living is a do-it-yourself project. At birth we were given our life, and in the course of that life, we’ve encountered circumstances, people, events.

What we make of them – and of ourselves – has been left entirely up to us. But there are certain people and certain organizations who see what we’re doing and may not like the direction we’re headed in. Some of them might even feel they have the right to step in and direct our life for us.