What Problems Bring to You

Every Problem Carries Around Its Own Solution

“The solution arises together with the problem.”
~ Kryon

“In every adversity there lies the seed of an equivalent advantage. In every defeat is a lesson showing you how to win the victory next time.”
~ Robert Collier

Here’s a suggestion. We need to rethink our concept of problems. First off, if something happens, if a so-called problem lands with both feet right in the middle of our lives, we certainly don’t welcome it. Of course not. It’s a problem. Duh…

But that’s actually not true – it’s NOT a problem, not in actual fact. It’s just a situation where something happens. A situation. That’s all it is. The “problem” or the “no-problem” part is something we supply at our own initiative. You probably know somebody who seems to seldom get ruffled. They just sail right through a situation that’s got another person waving their arms around and shouting loud things.

For example, let’s say we see some kind of event. Just an ordinary event … something that’s happening all the time, every day. Then we start to form an opinion. Up until this point it has been just a neutral event or condition occurring somewhere near us.

But then we react to it. We smear a thick layer of our own emotions and opinions over it.

And that’s when problems come into existence. Everything that happens is completely neutral – not good, not bad – until we form a feeling toward about that event. It’s we who declare the goodness or the badness of things.

Those things that we can easily handle – we relax and call them neutral or “good.” But the things we don’t have a clue what to do about – those things we usually label “bad.” Because they inconvenience us.

In other words, situations don’t cause problems, we create them from our attitudes, our opinions. Both good and bad are nothing more than opinions that we generate.

Only one source of problems exists, and it’s us. Problems come into being either because we simply don’t know what to do, or we do know but we damned well don’t want to.

The only real problem is inexperience (or stubbornness) on our part. For example, when we lack experience or common sense and we feel intimidated by situations that are in unknown territory, our emotions can quickly rise to the boiling point.

Or when we don’t have enough emotional maturity to handle our own emotions and feelings, then a situation may feel like more bother than we think we deserve to be inconvenienced by.

In either of those cases, problems are based solely in our feelings, not in our logic. As I said, they’re something we create for ourselves, using our own emotions.

So the real issue is not the goodness or the badness of things that happen. The issue is how we make ourselves feel about it. What if we could take charge of how we feel and change it at will? What a concept, huh?

But wait …

Doesn’t that sound a little bit like some of the techniques we’ve been studying for years? Hypnosis, for instance, or EFT? Or any of an armload of other approaches?

Well, I’ll be damned. Have we really had the solution to this kind of problem for years and years, had it right at our fingertips, but we’ve been maybe a little too busy with the problems to get round to the relief?

But what if we did? What if, every time we felt pressured or stressed or threatened, we stopped, sat down and did some EFT tapping? Or some simple self-hypnosis? Or we just interrupted our cycle of discomfort by giving ourselves a good, positive talking to – kind but stern – setting out how we want ourselves to act right now.

Gee, I wonder. Could such a simple little change really make a difference in our day-to-day experience? Could we really pick ourselves up by our own bootstraps that way?

One thing’s for sure. We’ll never find out by not trying it.

Cheers from sunny Japan,
Charles

AFTERTHOUGHT:

So … getting out from under problems … it sounds so simple, right? But when you actually start thinking about it, does it all feel a bit daunting? Would you like a little help getting started?

I’ll be holding a series of live calls starting in September to help with this issue. That is, we’ll be learning quick ways to deal with our own beliefs about problems, rather than wasting time on the problems themselves. I’ll be posting further information about this series of calls. Look for it.

And if you have some specific suggestions about what you’d like for us to cover, drop me an email, or leave a note in the comments section below.

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3 Responses to What Problems Bring to You

  1. David says:

    This is very nice! Thank you much…

    REPLY — Thanks David. Good to hear from you (and nice to be appreciated).

  2. Russ says:

    Hey Charles,

    Things always seem to make more sense when viewed from outside of the ‘bubble’ – the ‘heat of the battle’ situation. I know when we’re caught up in those kinds of moments, my knee-jerk response to the two quotes you cited are, “Yeah… RIGHT! Maybe for you and your insignificant trifles; but MY problems are REAL!”

    Oh, how many times have I thought THOSE kind of thoughts? 🙂

    As a suggestion for your September program, I would be interested in seeing your practice process or system for making this WIGIT an automatic trigger so that when we inevitably get sucked into the next event, perceiving it yet again as another problem, we’ll have instead this ‘magic’ to see things differently.

    In the meantime, I can see myself jumping around the house doing my best bullfrog impersonation, “WIGIT… WIGIT!”

    I don’t think Maggie would have a problem with that, do you? LOL

    All the best from Toronto,
    Russ

    • chasby says:

      “I can see myself jumping around the house doing my best bullfrog impersonation, “WIGIT… WIGIT!” “

      Now that sounds like something you could sell admission tickets for. I’d come to the show.

      And thanks for the suggestion. I’ll be asking for more feedback over the next couple of weeks. Looking forward to hearing what folks want.

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