Category Archives: Intention
Which Comes First, the Change or the Insight?
Quotes are a great shortcut into a person’s mind. Here’s a quick glimpse into mine. So maybe you can guess where I stand on the question of insight versus action.
Quotes are a great shortcut into a person’s mind. Read a selection of the thoughts and ideas they value, and you have a summary of how they think; which concepts and values guide them day-by-day, hour-by-hour. Here’s a quick glimpse into my own reality.
Milton Erickson said, “Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change.” And who was this Erickson guy? An American psychiatrist and hypnotist who specialized in family therapy. In his practice he saw a lot of change come and go. And he knew that insights are knowing where the accelerator pedal and gear shift are, but action, making things happen, is grabbing the shift lever, throwing it into gear, and stomping the gas.
New insights will change your world view. But new actions will change where you are in your world.
Now go reread your collection of favorite quotes. What’s their main theme, their mood and promise? Pessimistic and cynical or glowing and uplifting. What do they say about you?
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Persistence vs. an Ugly Voice from the Past
Persistence is a crucial trait.
And it’s this quality that keeps you going through everything. But sometimes flashbacks can get in the way of persistence.
Flashbacks? Yeah, you know – ideas, voices or mental pictures from out of your past. Stuff that rises up out of the back of your mind to haunt you – undermine your determination. And that’s exactly what happened to me a few years back.
Grit True or Grit False?
Angela Duckworth – Grit
In my teens, I began feeling, as many people that age do, a serious lack of … something. Something I didn’t have but which I believed would enable me to live without the constant sense of malaise that gnawed away deep in my inner space. Within me was a strong sense of “I can’t do it”, whatever “it” might turn out to be, and furthermore, I probably wouldn’t ever be able to do it.
Showing Is Better than Telling
Doubters Dragging You Down?
A question I frequently receive concerns being surrounded by negative friends, family members or co-workers and how discouraging they can be. A few days ago, I received another such email:
“My husband just doesn’t get it – I try to explain the laws of attraction, but he always rejects the idea, and sometimes ridicules me for my gullibility. How can I get him to stop being so negative and see how important this is? I tried to get him to watch the movie ‘The Secret’ with me, but he just made fun of it and walked out. Is it possible to get results while I’m surrounded by all this negativity?”
Rebuilding Your Beliefs
Hand-Me-Down Ideas
Most of our beliefs are second-hand goods. We acquire the bulk of them, beginning at a very early age, from those around us, and then we spend much of the rest of our lives trying both to cling to them and shake ourselves loose from them.
We take our beliefs on so lightly, so full of trust, thinking they are fundamental truths, but eventually we begin suspecting that many of them are a bad fit. That’s when we find that bringing a belief in is a lot easier than inviting it out. What a strange comedy.
Retiring Your Fears
I remember reading somewhere, “Words, said with certainty, can alter our beliefs.”
I really like that. Getting a client to put their own words together with their own actions is a great way to teach them DIY confidence.
About that thing I do, it’s similar to the way a hypnotist will place your pain in a blind spot, except
The Impatience of Mrs. Suzuki
Patience is a virtue … everybody agrees, right?
Back in the 14th century, British poet William Langland was probably the first to introduce this thought into English. And the ensuing seven hundred years have done nothing to disprove it. Just the opposite.
So why are so many people still so impatient?
Who’s That Knockin’ on Your Door?
Missing Messages
Imagine this: You’re at a friend’s house, cheerfully chatting, and there’s a knock at the front door. But your friend makes no move to go see who it is. The knocking continues, gradually becoming more insistent, but still your friend ignores it.
Finally, you offer, “Don’t you think you should go see about that?”
